“you shouldn’t be depressed, people have it worse than you”
finally, after years of searching, the person with the worst life ever is found. formally, they are granted permission to be sad. but only them. only they have earned it. no sads for anyone else at all ever
For The Men Who Still Don’t Get It, Carol Diehl
Always reblog. (via purpleishboots)
DEAR LORD OF THE RINGS THANK YOU!!!!!
It is my civic duty to reblog this.
You can’t begin to understand how many times I’ve had to say this!
i am so fucking confused and im angry bc ive read this about 10 times over and still dont get it
Thank you Hank!
YES. A million times yes.
I’m a guy, and I need feminism. Not “men’s rights.” Feminism. Here is why.
Everything that MRAs talk about that men can’t do or are socially punished for arise directly and immediately from misogyny. Not “misandry.”…
Too often, casual observers mistakenly attribute laziness to people who have mental illnesses like depression or anxiety disorders that impair their ability to work and be active. A person with compulsive hoarding, for example, is not “lazy” about cleaning or organizing their home. For a person with compulsive hoarding, throwing away a paper cup may be dreadfully difficult and stressful. For such a person, throwing away five cups may require immense courage and hard work - it would certainly not be a task for the truly lazy.
We attribute laziness to people when they have failed to do specific tasks that we value. We typically do not label people lazy when we have stopped to consider the fuller range of their activity and motivations. If we value the person, we would more likely attribute the absence of productive behavior to the competing needs and motivations that they must have to do other things, e.g., to relax or to do something other than the task that we wanted them to do.
Often, the people that we label as lazy are folks who are on the margins of the working world, like homeless people or low-wage workers. Labeling people “lazy” is a way of deeming them as morally unacceptable (sloth is a deadly sin) and deserving of their low status. If we call someone lazy, we do it to dismiss them, not to understand them."
Nothing in the world is the way it ought to be. It’s harsh and cruel. But that’s why there’s us. Champions. It doesn’t matter where we come from, what we’ve done or suffered, or even if we make a difference. We live as though the world were as it should be, to show it what it can be.
Allan G. Johnson (via lavenderlabia)
Good passage. For some unknown quirky reason, just now it struck me as an analysis of Pink Floyd’s The Wall. Ooooh babe of course Mother’s gonna help build The Wall.
- Frances Lockie (via burningangyl)
I am angry and disappointed in the creators and writers of the films and shows I obsess over, when they casually attempt to throw in lines which degrade women, just for not being men. When John in BBC’s Sherlock break up an argument between Sherlock and Lestrade by saying “Alright, alright,…
How to tell a rape joke: Take a metal bar, beat a rapist or rape apologist repeatedly and say “so a rapist walks into a bar” with each stroke.
then make them walk past a long queue of survivors who will deliver some brutal uppercuts & call it the punch line.
When medical people know what the problem is for real, and have the tools needed to help the body to heal itself, that’s great. Often they do not know, yet they still feel obliged to pretend to know, and thus end up just role-playing (at times) as the flawless authorities on physical “health and well-being” that society seems to want them to be. In return for their inglorious performances, they receive both prestige and a hefty fee.
The performative nature of western medicine can be helpful. The “placebo effect” is a proven effect. The placebo effect reveals that the “art of medicine” is occassionally sufficient to create useful changes in the mind/body. So even if the underlying medical justification for a certain healing modality is erroneous, it can still be beneficial to the patient to receive it on occasion. A patient may not have healed as well without that erroneous yet convincing experience of being properly treated by a competent authority.
Yet, treating a patient with the wrong healing modality can get in the way of the body’s natural healing response. Certain medications have unpleasent side effects which can create additional health or quality-of-life problems either immediately or down the road. Treating a patient against their will (or coercively) with what is technically the wrong modality is pretty much evil. Thus, some useful rules of thumb are (1) “do no harm”, (2) have the humility to accept that despite your relative expertise, your knowledge of a particular human being’s needs is still limited and flawed in some ways, and (3) be sure that you truly have your patient’s informed and uncoerced consent. Also please (4) realize that a basic “consent for treatment” is different than a “consent to be dehumanized.”