“you shouldn’t be depressed, people have it worse than you”
finally, after years of searching, the person with the worst life ever is found. formally, they are granted permission to be sad. but only them. only they have earned it. no sads for anyone else at all ever
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"What if all women were bigger and stronger than you? And thought they were smarter? What if women were the ones who started wars? What if too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos and no K-Y Jelly? What if the state trooper who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike was a woman and carried a gun? What if the ability to menstruate was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs? What if your attractiveness to women depended on the size of your penis? What if every time women saw you they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands? What if women were always making jokes about how ugly penises are and how bad sperm tastes? What if you had to explain what’s wrong with your car to big sweaty women with greasy hands who stared at your crotch in a garage where you are surrounded by posters of naked men with hard-ons? What if men’s magazines featured cover photos of 14-year-old boys with socks tucked into the front of their jeans and articles like: “How to tell if your wife is unfaithful” or “What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate” or “The truth about impotence”? What if the doctor who examined your prostate was a woman and called you “Honey”? What if you had to inhale your boss’ stale cigar breath as she insisted that sleeping with her was part of the job? What if you couldn’t get away because the company dress code required you wear shoes designed to keep you from running? And what if after all that women still wanted you to love them?"
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For The Men Who Still Don’t Get It, Carol Diehl
Wow.
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Always reblog. (via purpleishboots)
(Source: sassysluteverforever, via janie-mcpants)
"Asking questions about why I don’t want kids is really none of your business, but at least it’s a dialogue. Telling me straight up that I will “change my mind” because you are so sure that I will suddenly realize one day that my decision is the wrong one — that’s not only rude, it’s an attack."
- Stop Telling Me I’ll “Change My Mind” About Wanting Kids | TIME.com
DEAR LORD OF THE RINGS THANK YOU!!!!!
It is my civic duty to reblog this.
You can’t begin to understand how many times I’ve had to say this!
i am so fucking confused and im angry bc ive read this about 10 times over and still dont get it
Thank you Hank!
YES. A million times yes.
(Source: krevlornswath)
"First you’re taught to fear a phantom, a man in black, a man with a knife, a man who’ll pounce in dark alleys. Well-intentioned women—mothers, aunts, teachers—will train you to protect yourself: Don’t wear your hair in a ponytail; it’s easier to grab. Hold your keys in one hand; hold your pepper spray in the other. Avoid dark alleys. When you reach young adulthood, the lessons change. They acquire an undertone of disgust: Don’t drink so much. Don’t wear such short skirts. You’re sending mixed signals; you’re putting yourself at risk. If you follow the advice and it never happens—if you end up one of the three out of four—you can convince yourself that safety is a product of your own making, a reflection of inherent goodness. But if you’re paying attention, you realize something doesn’t add up. Because it keeps happening: to your sisters; to your friends; to little girls and grown women you’ll never meet, in places like Cleveland, Texas; Steubenville, Ohio; New Delhi. Good people, bad people, neutral. It keeps happening in TV shows and novels and movies—they open on the missing girl, the dead girl, the raped girl. If you’re paying attention, you begin to realize that it isn’t happening. It is being done. And you are not safe. You have never been safe. You were born with a bulls-eye on your back. All you have ever been is lucky."
- The Female Gaze: SO MUCH PRETTY by Cara Hoffman - review Cara Hoffman’s really amazing, really important novel So Much Pretty at The Female Gaze this month. (via cocothinkshefancy)
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Hey Look, There's Stuff.: misandry isn't real, dudez
I’m a guy, and I need feminism. Not “men’s rights.” Feminism. Here is why.
Everything that MRAs talk about that men can’t do or are socially punished for arise directly and immediately from misogyny. Not “misandry.”…
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Too often, casual observers mistakenly attribute laziness to people who have mental illnesses like depression or anxiety disorders that impair their ability to work and be active. A person with compulsive hoarding, for example, is not “lazy” about cleaning or organizing their home. For a person with compulsive hoarding, throwing away a paper cup may be dreadfully difficult and stressful. For such a person, throwing away five cups may require immense courage and hard work - it would certainly not be a task for the truly lazy.
We attribute laziness to people when they have failed to do specific tasks that we value. We typically do not label people lazy when we have stopped to consider the fuller range of their activity and motivations. If we value the person, we would more likely attribute the absence of productive behavior to the competing needs and motivations that they must have to do other things, e.g., to relax or to do something other than the task that we wanted them to do.
Often, the people that we label as lazy are folks who are on the margins of the working world, like homeless people or low-wage workers. Labeling people “lazy” is a way of deeming them as morally unacceptable (sloth is a deadly sin) and deserving of their low status. If we call someone lazy, we do it to dismiss them, not to understand them.
"- the Laziness Myth (via redefiningbodyimage)
(via feministsociology)
Nothing in the world is the way it ought to be. It’s harsh and cruel. But that’s why there’s us. Champions. It doesn’t matter where we come from, what we’ve done or suffered, or even if we make a difference. We live as though the world were as it should be, to show it what it can be.
(Source: lesliecrusher, via whedonesque)
"When men feel inconsequential, it’s easier to blame women than it is to confront patriarchy - the true source of the diminishment and lack of meaning in so many men’s lives. When men feel unloved and disconnected, it’s easier to accuse women of not loving them well enough than it is to consider men’s own alienation from life. It’s easier to think of women as keeping men from the essence of their own lives than it is to see how men’s participation in patriarchy can suffocate and kill the life within themselves. It’s easier to theorize about powerful, devouring mothers than to confront the reality of patriarchy.
Beneath the massive denial of men’s power and responsibility and its projection onto women is an enormous pool of rage, resentment, and fear. Rather than look at patriarchy and their place within it, many men will beat, rape, torture, murder, and oppress women, children, and one another. They will wage mindless war and offer themselves up for the slaughter, chain themselves to jobs and work themselves to numbed exhaustion as if their lives had no value or meaning beyond controlling or being controlled or defending against control, and content themselves with half-lives of confused, lost deprivation. What men lack, women didn’t take from them, and it isn’t up to women to give it back.m"
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Allan G. Johnson (via lavenderlabia)
Good passage. For some unknown quirky reason, just now it struck me as an analysis of Pink Floyd’s The Wall. Ooooh babe of course Mother’s gonna help build The Wall.
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(Source: wretchedoftheearth, via mycatreadsmydiary)
"Never underestimate the huge middle finger you are giving to the world when you make peace with your body."
- Frances Lockie (via burningangyl)
(via feministsociology)
In which the magpie is the fiend: I am angry and disappointed in the creators and writers of the films...
I am angry and disappointed in the creators and writers of the films and shows I obsess over, when they casually attempt to throw in lines which degrade women, just for not being men. When John in BBC’s Sherlock break up an argument between Sherlock and Lestrade by saying “Alright, alright,…
TW: Rape
How to tell a rape joke: Take a metal bar, beat a rapist or rape apologist repeatedly and say “so a rapist walks into a bar” with each stroke.
then make them walk past a long queue of survivors who will deliver some brutal uppercuts & call it the punch line.
(Source: leonhotsky, via rabbleprochoice)
"The art of medicine consists in amusing the patient while nature cures the disease."
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Voltaire
When medical people know what the problem is for real, and have the tools needed to help the body to heal itself, that’s great. Often they do not know, yet they still feel obliged to pretend to know, and thus end up just role-playing (at times) as the flawless authorities on physical “health and well-being” that society seems to want them to be. In return for their inglorious performances, they receive both prestige and a hefty fee.
The performative nature of western medicine can be helpful. The “placebo effect” is a proven effect. The placebo effect reveals that the “art of medicine” is occassionally sufficient to create useful changes in the mind/body. So even if the underlying medical justification for a certain healing modality is erroneous, it can still be beneficial to the patient to receive it on occasion. A patient may not have healed as well without that erroneous yet convincing experience of being properly treated by a competent authority.
Yet, treating a patient with the wrong healing modality can get in the way of the body’s natural healing response. Certain medications have unpleasent side effects which can create additional health or quality-of-life problems either immediately or down the road. Treating a patient against their will (or coercively) with what is technically the wrong modality is pretty much evil. Thus, some useful rules of thumb are (1) “do no harm”, (2) have the humility to accept that despite your relative expertise, your knowledge of a particular human being’s needs is still limited and flawed in some ways, and (3) be sure that you truly have your patient’s informed and uncoerced consent. Also please (4) realize that a basic “consent for treatment” is different than a “consent to be dehumanized.”
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