"Yes, false rape accusations happen. Run the protocol anyway. I’ve heard that perhaps the military has the highest number of ‘em. True or not, RUN THE PROTOCOL ANYWAY. Because in 15 years of investigating rape accusations, I can count those that panned out as false on one hand. Meanwhile, the one time I almost skipped the protocol, the one time I almost didn’t believe a petty officer, because I was naive as an investigator and a young woman, because her commanding officer described her as “a party girl, always late, always out drinking, don’t bother with this one”, she turned out to be the victim of one of the most brutal assaults I’ve ever investigated. She shouldn’t have still been -alive-, let alone up and making the accusation. So let me repeat: five false accounts in fifteen years. And one time I almost failed a woman ‘cause of the bullshit way it’s normal to talk about us. Take your shipmates’ word, and then run the protocol. Every. Single. Time."
- - JAG lawyer, speaking to my husband’s plant during Sexual Assault Prevention Month. (via circusbones)
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CNN’s Wolf Blitzer Asks Atheist Tornado Survivor If She ‘Thanked The Lord’
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You Don't Have to Spend a Ton on a Funeral (Here's Why)
As the director of Funeral Consumers Alliance, a nonprofit that helps people avoid funeral fraud, I know all about mortuary mythology. (That’s what I call the collective “wisdom” about death, dying, funerals, and dead people.) Most Americans get their information about how to bury the dead from the people we pay to do it for us—not exactly the most disinterested source.
David Boreanaz (‘91) was this year’s commencement speaker at Ithaca College
(speech starts at 4:40)
My search for that authentic existence … took me on a journey from a parking attendant to a house painter to a props department assistant to the guy who hands out towels in a sports club and a guy who drives a truck and tries to sell gourmet food door to door. … Every day I would get off [my sister’s couch in L.A.], put on a suit, grab my briefcase packed with 200 resumes … and I would drive to studio back lots. I would go on in and I would act as if I owned the place. I’d hang on the sets, get unintentional cameos in the crowd shots, and when they called lunch, I’d follow the pack to craft services and I would eat.”
Boreanaz told the graduates to persevere. “You’re going to make mistakes — make them big. Make huge mistakes, learn from them. You’re going to get sidetracked. Everyone gets sidetracked. You might even get canceled; don’t take it personally. Just get back out there. Because you know what? If you make it through season two, they might even give you a spin-off.” (x)
"I don’t get nearly enough credit in life for the things I manage not to say."
- Meg Rosoff (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
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